Patience is a virtue that I have not had lately.
I'm pretty sure mine and John's relationship would be perfect if computers and video games were never invented. I really have no patience for them. No, correction, I have no patience for a husband who plays them all day long.
I don't know how many times or ways (patiently and not so patiently) I've tried to tell him my feelings about the issue, but I guess it just doesn't come across right. Either that, or he simply doesn't care how much I hate them. I'd like to think it's not the latter, but who knows.
The other day I told him that I'm not going to spend the rest of my life arguing over these stupid games, I'll throw them and the computer out of the f*&%ing window before that happens. Ugh, I just get so frustrated. I shouldn't have to compete with people online nor should I have to beg for quality time which I feel like I've been doing lately.
There ya have it ladies and gentlemen. My marriage is not perfect. Here is it's biggest flaw.
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I had the same problem with Steve for a long time. Talk to him when he's not about to start and when he's not getting off of them because of you asking him to... like when you guys take Duke for a walk together. Just tell him how you feel in a calm manner. I had to flat out tell him that I take priority over video games and that I didn't want to be like his parents. His dad is always downstairs playing video games while his mom is upstairs watching tv and playing farmville. I told him that I didn't feel important to him because we never saw each other, and when we did that's all he wanted to do. I made him get up earlier (when I went to work) so that he could play for a few hours before he went to work. And when he came home, his attention was mine. If we're home together and I want attention, I announce it and he gets to finish the round. I totally get it, Piper. I've threatened to throw them away too. I hope you guys figure out a compromise soon. Video games are bad for marriage unless you need a few hours of space haha. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad someone else gets it. I understand everyone needs their hobbies, and I don't want to take the games away from him because he does like playing them, but sometimes I just feel like if he put as much time into me as he does his games everything would be so great. After I posted this it kind of blew up, mostly because I was heated and was at my wits end. He promised to work on it. I know I have things to work on too, and I probably could have handled it better than telling him his priorities were f'ed up, but I really am just tired from having the same argument over and over.I think we'll need to set up some sort of system like that too- he can play while I'm at work but when I'm home it's "us" time. Thanks, Jessica. I actually came on here to delete this post because I felt bad for writing it, but now that I know that someone else has gone through it too I feel a lot better.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to update on this one since I still feel bad about airing some dirty laundry. He's really changed since that night. He plays while I'm at work or when I'm in bed, I hardly ever see him on anymore. He's canceled a subscription to one of the games that was taking up so much of his time and we've had a lot of quality time together since. I love that he took me being upset so seriously :o). He's seriously made a 180 since all this happened <3
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